By Fida Hussain, Turbat
Wedding is such a happiness which comes once in life of every individual and it is harbinger of unity. Likewise, marriages are the master key which not only end sorrows but also open the gate of happiness. In Baloch history, marriages are different than other provinces of Pakistan; however, when we open pages of our history, we can find Balochi wedding in a different shape with full of joys. It is celebrated with different ways and entire members of the society get gathered to where marriage is celebrated. So, let’s have a short glance on the following customs of Balochi wedding.
Engagement: (Zamathi) Before starting marriage, the parents of boy send a messenger to girls parents and asks for willingness and tell them he was send as a courier to pop the question for their son and it is their wish that they will agree or not. While, after engagement, the elders of boy family get gathered on the given date and girl parents put their demands, which is known as dowry. After accepting dowry by both families, they will select a date for marriage ceremony.
Invitation: (Lotokhi) Invitation comes after preparation of marriage ceremony by both families. Likewise, the women of the community get gathered in bride and groom house and go for invitation in house to house of their village and society. This process approximately continues for two or three days.
Jullbandi: It is the first process of marriage when all invited women get gathered in groom house, take jewelries and dresses of bride and then leave the bride’s house. They are welcomed with sweets by bride’s family. On the other hand, all women sing traditional songs and dance which is called (Dochappi) in Balochi. This process is known as Jullbandi.
Dozzoki: At this night, the women of the community get gathered at the house of bride and groom. Sargwap hennas the hands of bride and groom separately with singing traditional songs.
Henni Band: When it comes to perform henni band, all women of the society get gathered at bride house and they are offered meal in night. At the same time all women of bride family sing traditional songs and dance (Dochappi). Of course Sargwap once again keeps henna on the hands of bride and groom separately.
Khorag: After henni band it comes to perform Khorag which is celebrated at the evening on Henni Band. At the same time Sargwap sing songs, collects money and other women dance. This complete process is called Khorag.
Wedlock (Nikha): This is the day when elder members of bride and groom gather at the house of groom and call a Molvi (clergyman) for wedlock prayer. Similarly, groom swears that he will protect bride from every hurdles. At last groom will be taken to bride’s room by elders.
Mubarak: This is the last day of marriage which comes after wedlock night. All members of groom gather at the house of groom and leave for bride house along with drummers and the bride members welcome them. Here all members praise bride and groom such as “Mubarak mani saloonk tara ra washi baa”.