Forced Marriages in Our Society
Khurshid Qazi, (University of Karachi)
Society is a universal concept, which has two preliminary aspects in sociological perspective, such as good forces and evil forces, both has their loose bounds worldwide. Good forces usually instigate the people towards the constructive and beneficial deeds in order to organize, bring solidarity and stability in the society. On the contrary, evil forces-the biggest antagonist of good forces-incite the people towards demoralization of social norms, which causes disorganization in the society. The focal point “forced marriages” is the outcome of the same evil forces, which at broader concept have maligned the moral values in our society.
“Marriage is the ceremony which unites a man and woman into a family.” Marriages can only be through free consent of parties. This is the true concept of marriage under Islamic Injunctions. But this is bluntly being violated in our society. The violation of such fundamental rights in 21st century is a hanging question; this might seem not be a violation of individual’s rights, but in fact it is and this is virtually the violation of norms which are prevalent in our society, and we live in a society where violation of norms is a norm.
In order to curb such mischief, section 310 –A of P.P.C has been provided. According to it, a girl is forced to get married to male whether in the form of Vani or may be due to other norms. The law provides for 3 to 7 years imprisonment and 5 lac rupees as penalty. But it is futile because this is not in action. This might exist in black and white. Moreover, Forced marriage is a perpetual practice in most rural areas of Pakistan. The younger people become victims of values and customs of older generation. Coercive marriages can patently lead to psychological problems and other subversive impacts such as separation, just after the few months of marriage, divorce, mental mismatching, lack of tolerance or patience and lack of understanding. As the upshot, the spouses just live a cat and dog life. In this connection the offspring would also sail in the same boat.
Such marriages have dysfunctional socialization and negative bearings on children’s psychological and social nourishment. In this case, the personality which is socially acquired will be abnormal and the children may socially be isolated because family as a social group can play the most vital role to farm individual personality through socialization. It is the family wherein the newly born child learns the A B Cs of socialization; the unwilling spouse can have totally destructive affects. Such domestic condition would mesmerize and hypnotize the off springs.
In order to avoid such dismal scenario, the civil society and people from the all walk of life join hands for elimination of such subversive activities and to provide a platform to discuss such controversial issues.
In order to have a greater understanding regarding the forced marriages, please consult “POLES APART”, a documentary, based on the menace of forced marriages.