By Shah Ahmed, Turbat
Well sorrows and happiness are the part of human being’s lives so as marriage is believed as a source of the happiest moments in lives. Marriages are sorts of happiness and unity for the people of society, families and also the bride and groom which connects two families, and hearts in one.
Balochi customs and traditions of marriage are well known due to its uniqueness and praiseworthy styles. Balochi marriage consists all the Islamic and respectful ways of marriage including its ways of conducting it. Balochi marriage can proceed to 6 to 8 days and the various steps or ethnicities of marriage are listed below.
1..Habar Sindi or Zamathi;
The first and the most important step of Balochi marriage is Habar Sindi. In this process the family members of boys go to the family members of the girl (which are to be married) the members from boys start breaking the ice by convincing the family members of girls. Here they decide the expense and the girl’s demands. Afterwards there they decide the dates and the boy’s family give some money to the girl’s family as (Nishanag) there the boy becomes engaged with the girl and this is also known as (Zamathi).
Well, lotoki means invitation, in this process the woman from boy’s family visit all the area and invite the families from other residents of the area. Now all the invited women from boy’s family start singing (Nazink) the traditional Balochi songs (due to great joy) and going to the girl’s family in order for Jull Bandi .
- Jull Bandi;
Jull and bandi are two Balochi words, Jull means a large piece of cloth decorated well in order to use for hiding purpose and bandi means to close. Here in this process the bride is hidden in this large piece of decorated cloth by the groom’s personnel for 4 days till the last day of the marriage and it is the first day of the marriage. After the Jull Bandi for 2 days and nights the people from bride’s and groom’s family go for Nazink and they enjoy dancing, singing and giving feasts to other people and guests.
4. Henni band;
Henni band is the process of hennaing the bride and groom’s feet and hands. It is the third night of the marriage where at night the groom’s feet and hands are hennaed by the people as well as the same is performed to the bride. In this night money are put on the head of the groom and bride that are taken from the workers as a tradition called (LEET). Also some decorated piece of papers with money on it is also worn to the groom. This continues also on the next night as called the 2nd day of Henni Band, at this night feast is also given to the guests and others. On the next day there is going to be a great feast for all and everyone so the preparation is done on this night. As Balochi tradition this night bundles of goats with a number of cows are slaughtered for the next day.
5. Soore Roch;
It is the most essential day of all the marriage, in this day on morning till the afternoon, the workers prepare the dinner for everyone in the area and also outsiders there are numbers of workers on the large cookers of Biryani and Karahi. Almost at 1pm everyone from children to the old gets together to eat them as sweets and it continues till 4 or 5pm. At evening the groom and bride are made ready for Nikkah (this process is known as Korag) and at Magrib the groom is taken to the house of the bride. All the relatives assemble and call a well-educated Moluvi. Moluvi gives Nikkah to the groom and bride. Here with joy all the relatives take the groom to the bride at night.
This day is said to be the happiest day of the both of their lives, in this day all of the people draw together at the bride’s home to congratulate them both for their happy marriage. After on the third day, groom takes the bride to their own houses. The groom arranges a huge feast for the bride’s family members.
After these all memorable moments the bride and groom begin a new happy life unitedly.